Deirdre’s Blog

The Art of Truth-Telling

For most of us honesty is a quality that we value, though when it comes right down to it, telling the truth isn't always easy. If it were, we would do it all the time, and we don't. On a large scale, many environmental, political,…

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Three DBT Skills To Help a Suicidal Teen

Living in the Kootenays, we are isolated from acute care facilities that help teenagers who struggle with serious mental health issues. The closest adolescent psychiatric hospital is in Kelowna; the closest eating disorder hospital is on the coast. If a teenager struggles profoundly with a…

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Anorexia, Bulimia, and the Starving of Saints

There is an idiom about the canary in the coal mine, dating back to when miners brought caged canaries underground with them. If the canary died, signalling toxic levels of methane or carbon monoxide which were undetectable by smell, the miners knew to get out.…

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What's the Difference Between Borderline and Bipolar?

That’s the question that begat this article, but it mushroomed into more than that. You see, to talk about how borderline and bipolar are different, we also need to talk about how they’re similar. And to talk about how they’re similar, we need to talk…

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Standing on the Shore of a Loved One’s Addiction

Not infrequently, I will receive a call from someone who is looking for help with addiction. In these calls I’m thinking about, it’s not the person suffering the addiction who calls - it’s a loved one. They want to know a few things: What can…

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How To Find The Right Counsellor

When I began my master’s degree in counselling, the first thing that struck me was how genuinely warm and kind my classmates were. In a roomful of people that supportive, I thought to myself, “I’m home!” It’s pretty true that, by and large, counsellors are…

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Curious Questions

"There’s no such thing as a stupid question.” Or, as one of my teachers said, “Yes there are, but those are outliers and they don’t count.” The simple truth is that we often don’t know where an encounter will take us, and that’s the good…

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How to Say No

When my daughter was little, I posted some affirmations up around her room. On heart-shaped post-it notes were statements like, “I am funny” and “I am kind.” In return, she made some affirmations for me. I walked into my bedroom to find the walls plastered…

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The Wonder of Wonder

I love the quality of wonder. It evokes curiosity, exploration, and the humility to simply not have all the answers. When we wonder, we ask questions. We open our hearts and minds. We are as children. Clinically, wonder is a very useful tool. When first…

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Healing Sexual Shame

When a client shares some sexual shame that they’re struggling with, I’m always filled with such awe at their strength. Maybe they're using porn more than they want to, or they fear intimacy. Maybe they’ve just received a diagnosis of a sexually transmitted infection. Whatever…

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